My Fiance’s family is being torn up with alcohol addiction.
My soon to be father in law acts obsessed with healthcare, yet goes through at least a 6 pack of beer a night. Works out to the point of pulling muscles. Eats healthy meals (except that most night he drinks and eats til about 2-3am). He’s 51 with what we’re pretty sure could be classified as early onset Alzheimer’s, and a myriad of genetic problems. Problem is he hasn’t had consistent enough doctor visits to be certain. The flip side of this is that he self diagnoses himself ALL the time, and genuinely believes he knows better than specialists who have blown incredible amounts of time and money for this field.
POINT IS…
My fiance and I have been living with him for about 2 years now. With my help, he was able to finally get disability checks to help out and get his own groceries, and generally feel like a normal adult. Fiance had to sit down with his account history and show him he spent 400$ over the course of two months on beer.
He has consistent doctors visits and has a counselor visit him weekly.
We had to limit the drinking. My fiance was starting to drink to deal with the stress from recent fights between them. I don’t know what else to do.
Tonight we asked him to limit it to the weekends (Fri-Sun) and no more staying up late cooking. Today is Thursday. After the talk turned shoutfest, he goes two separate times to get 6-packs. Like a fucking slap in the face.
Part of me wants to get him to a neurologist. He’s getting to the point he is hard to manage. He can’t even remember his PIN numbers and what medications to take some days.
Apply to a job, wait (1) day, then call. Give them your first and last name. Tell them you submitted an application and that you’re very motivated to find [Enter field name] work. Let the conversation lead you wherever it takes. Be very polite. Say” thank you for your time, I’ll be looking forward to hearing back from you.” Rinse, repeat. This is to force them to be looking out for your application.
When you get to the interview, shake their hand firmly, tell them your first and last name.
Describe your experiences as “ two years transcription and data entry” if you have a desk job interview and “ [however many years] costumer service, retail and stock” for your retail jobs.
Don’t use job “ buzz words” I stg they hear them all day. Say things like, “ I’m detail oriented and am very good at taking instruction.” “ I would like to work for a company with integrity and I feel that [ company name] would be a good fit”
When they ask you if you have “reliable transportation” say YES. don’t tell them what kind of transportation, just say yes. (if you don’t do this, you wont get the job , I’m telling you right now).
Research the company. Know what they do, why they do it, how OLD the company is. WHERE it was founded, and what kind of position you’re intending to apply for.
When they ask you “ give us a situation where you had to blah blah blah” Make one the fuck up. Make yourself sound good as hell, and like you put your company’s needs slightly above the customer’s needs, but make the customer happy.
If they ask you about being outgoing, Say you “like to focus on your work so you can concentrate on doing things right” (which buys you out of having to act friendly all the time)
Questions for after the interview:
1. Does this position offer upward mobility?
2. Do you enjoy working for the company? (if you’re not interviewing for a temp agency who will send you anywhere)
Then, shake their hand, Ask them to repeat their name (REMEMBER THIS) say thank you for your time, wish them a nice day and leave. write their name down outside if you have to, just remember the fuck out of it.
AFTER your interview, send a card directed to the name of the person who interviewed you (I’ll give you them) that says “Thank you for the interview, I appreciate the opportunity. have a great day” This shows that you have an understanding of professionalism, and will have them thinking of you kindly (or at least remembering you) when they’re shuffling through the choices.
DO NOT tell them you just moved to the city over the phone. In person, tell them you just moved to the city. Make it sound like the only reason you need a job is because you moved. Not because you’re desperate.
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